tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-65755624363383497752023-11-16T05:30:20.224-07:00Psyched-IN!psychedINhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768888351061658716noreply@blogger.comBlogger71125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575562436338349775.post-66965773311125522892020-10-01T15:42:00.002-06:002020-10-01T16:18:11.368-06:00WAKE UP AMERICA!!I haven't been writing for a while. Life happens. Someday I'll write about that. I got inspired yesterday, so thanks for your follows and comments! America (really humanity) this is your wake-up call. It’s easy to sit on the sidelines and laugh, marvel and create memes in response to the wildly unacceptable behaviors of public figures in the media.Congratulations. We’ve psychedINhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768888351061658716noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575562436338349775.post-34391408166724748562019-09-26T14:45:00.000-06:002019-09-26T14:47:05.849-06:00LISTEN UP SCHOOLSReprinted with permission from the 12 year old student who wrote this upon becoming overwhelmed at school. It was journaled on a school computer, which flagged some of the words in the letter. The writer was called in to the office and questioned (appropriately) about their safety and whether this person knew specifically of other students who were in danger. The thing is, no psychedINhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768888351061658716noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575562436338349775.post-124001330058571932015-07-10T15:51:00.000-06:002017-11-03T08:28:40.719-06:00THAT HAPPENED ...
There are many trends in the modern lexicon that bug the
dickens out of me. “That NEEDS FIXED”
for example. That
needs TO BE FIXED. Or TO BE washed . .
. or TO BE spoken correctly, for that matter.
Sometimes, I just don’t get it and I have to get my kids to explain it
to me. For example, “Kk.” Or “KK” or whatever it is. Is that OK?
And why are we psychedINhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768888351061658716noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575562436338349775.post-35319122836913494512014-12-13T13:51:00.000-07:002014-12-13T13:51:05.392-07:00The Flip Side of Forgiveness: How To ApologizeHere we are on the flip side of forgiveness, in the doorway to relationship repair. Apology is a lost art in our society, from politicians who earnestly swear that they ABSOLUTELY, POSITIVELY DID NOT DO . . . . whatever they have to admit to doing the next day, to our kids who wallop each other in the head and are forced to mutter a snotty "SORRY" through clenched teeth.
Really? psychedINhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768888351061658716noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575562436338349775.post-32213532639777276162014-12-10T07:51:00.001-07:002014-12-10T07:51:04.399-07:00Ten Most Beautiful Quotes on ForgivenessTimely, I thought. Brought to you through the miracle of Facebook.
"Ten Most Beautiful Quotes on Forgiveness"psychedINhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768888351061658716noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575562436338349775.post-88346426682261352022014-12-05T20:13:00.000-07:002014-12-05T20:13:32.179-07:00Apology: The flip side of forgivenessForgiveness is not a crowbar, a battering ram or a
bargaining chip. If you’ve screwed up,
forgiveness is not a right or a demand.
Let me give you a helpful piece of advice. If you care about a relationship, the
MOMENT you realize you blew it, RUN, don't walk - race as fast as you can to the relationship
repair department and start taking steps to fix it.
I always psychedINhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768888351061658716noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575562436338349775.post-25806382831987918862014-11-30T22:42:00.000-07:002014-11-30T22:42:11.417-07:00Forgiveness: Door Mat to Door Master (Part 2)
I LOVE this guy!!
photo by Imagerymajestic
And returning to the idea of Forgiveness ...
You may be reading these posts and thinking I'm Pollyanna-crazy.
"That works just fine in fantasyland," you might say, "but in MY world, there is no way I could go to this person and talk to them about our conflict!" Yep. That happens. What if you have absolutely no psychedINhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768888351061658716noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575562436338349775.post-8968407222060907092014-11-28T10:13:00.000-07:002014-11-28T10:23:00.416-07:00Thankful ... MORE OR LESS.Well, here we are, all stuffed with Turkey and nursing the aftermath of over indulgences of one kind or another (#pie). I wrote this blog in my head yesterday, but never had a chance to put it in a format that was accessible to anyone else.
Thanksgiving. We are long past the idyllic days of old where tables were set in the school hallways, covered with brown butcher paper, andpsychedINhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768888351061658716noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575562436338349775.post-3789901384009905492014-11-21T21:41:00.000-07:002014-11-28T10:13:53.746-07:00Forgiveness: 4 steps from Door Mat to Door MasterOnce you’ve wrapped your heart around forgiveness, you come face to face with the very human instinct to avoid that which causes us pain. It makes sense to stay away from toxic relationships. No one can fault you from keeping distance with someone who is a repeated source of relational chaos.
The easy thing is to just summarily cut the person off. To slam and deadbolt that door and to stoppsychedINhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768888351061658716noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575562436338349775.post-8717963597481974302014-11-14T12:00:00.000-07:002014-11-28T10:14:28.583-07:005 Myths About ForgivenessWhat's all this business about forgiveness? Doesn't that mean we walk around as human doormats? Powerless victims over those who are more willing to act out their self-centered, myopic agendas? Nope.
Forgiveness is as much (if not more) about what you’re going to carry around
with you as it is about how you handle the other person.
When we psychedINhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768888351061658716noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575562436338349775.post-7325069267205130772014-11-09T21:48:00.001-07:002014-11-12T18:14:42.189-07:00Forgiveness is an attribute of the strong.Here we go into the Holiday season once again. The season of parties and dinners and sitting around the table with those nearest and dearest, and often with whom we have the most conflict. We tend to talk a lot about forgiveness, and conflict, and how we ought to treat each other. Especially forgiveness. Turn the other cheek and all that, forgive, forgive, forgive.
&psychedINhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768888351061658716noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575562436338349775.post-2727704554921275042014-08-16T08:59:00.001-06:002014-08-16T09:11:13.222-06:00Grieving Robin Williams - an unanticipated part 2When I wrote my previous post, up to my eyeballs in grief over the overwhelming sense of being alone that is rampant among people in today's high-tech, fast-paced, slash and burn world, it was a plea for people to remember the importance of COMMUNICATING how you feel about someone. About recognizing that you may deeply care about a person, but if you keep that information inside your head, psychedINhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768888351061658716noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575562436338349775.post-61059351023479913832014-08-13T21:00:00.001-06:002014-08-14T18:51:15.428-06:00I'm not ready to celebrate the life of Robin Williams. I'm still stuck on his death.I am utterly heartbroken over the death of Robin
Williams. I was at a dinner party when
I heard the news on Monday, and had to suck it up because I had a clinic to present on Tuesday, but the tears came later that night and
I’ve been in a funk ever since.
Tomorrow I have to figure out how to go to work and fight the good
fight.
As a mental health practitioner, the psychedINhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768888351061658716noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575562436338349775.post-45904585219184873992014-02-28T20:28:00.000-07:002014-02-28T20:30:17.010-07:00Cherish - turn it inside out!
Squeaking in under the wire, right before the end of the month of February, the therapist comes in with a blog on the final component of how to build a lifetime relationship.
Photo by digitalart
Our friend Merriam Webster says that Cherish means "to keep or cultivate with care and affection." That sounds like something you do inside your head, and to a certain extent,psychedINhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768888351061658716noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575562436338349775.post-8403103736278522662014-02-18T21:24:00.000-07:002014-02-18T21:24:37.337-07:00Honor spelled backward is "Ronoh." (or ... I couldn't come up with a catchy title for this post)When is the last time you looked deeply into your partner's eyes and said "Darling, I honor you?" Never? Probably not. What the heck would that mean anyway??
Bluntly, honor is about not being a jerk, and it's something that mostly happens INSIDE your head.
These days, Honor is nearly a lost art form. It's hard to find anyone with honor in the psychedINhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768888351061658716noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575562436338349775.post-45797402949555043102014-02-11T21:28:00.001-07:002014-02-12T21:37:50.930-07:00L - Is For the Way You Look at Me ...
WOO HOO I DID IT!!!! Welcome to my SERIES on what makes relationships last. I promised you the big 3, and here they are. Lifetime partnerships are based in LOVE, HONOR and CHERISH.
The first thing that makes a relationship run is LOVE.
I'm not 80. I promise. But Nat King Cole had it right in his psychedINhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768888351061658716noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575562436338349775.post-73915230208626561462014-02-10T21:35:00.000-07:002014-02-10T23:06:37.034-07:00Where were we??
AAAAAAND . . . It's Valentine's Day again. Remember what I'm always saying about my reticence to promise a series?
When last we left our fearless blogger, she was waxing philosophical about what it takes to make a modern marriage work. She promised a series (she'll never learn) about the three things that ring the bell of relationship.
Gonna try and get it done this time . . . in the psychedINhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768888351061658716noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575562436338349775.post-25750758950371411532013-08-29T14:43:00.001-06:002013-08-29T14:43:13.523-06:00See what happens when I promise a series?I promise I'll get back to it soon! What a summer!psychedINhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768888351061658716noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575562436338349775.post-16939216861904134682013-06-09T15:30:00.001-06:002013-06-09T15:43:30.419-06:00Till Death Do Us Part . . . ish.
Photo by bigjom
Here we are in the month of June. The flowers are blooming, the birds are singing, and couples all over are spending tens of thousands of dollars to create the ultimate perfect nuptial experience.
What I like is that in recent years I have seen an increase in clients who come in for pre-marital counseling. It feels wrong on some level to poke around psychedINhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768888351061658716noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575562436338349775.post-20467985243993166122013-06-08T20:49:00.002-06:002013-06-08T20:57:36.160-06:00How to effectively ignore the fact that you have a body.This is going to be one of those "do as I say, not as I do" posts. (Just ignore the fact that it took me 2 weeks to finish it)
It's month end. As I write this, I really should be finishing up my billing for the month so that I can get it out in the mail tomorrow. Instead, I'm reflecting on what a crazy week it's been and how tired I am. I worked late last night, you see.&psychedINhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768888351061658716noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575562436338349775.post-75736112221794183162013-05-13T22:59:00.001-06:002013-05-13T22:59:42.464-06:00Happy Mother's Day!psychedINhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768888351061658716noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575562436338349775.post-75984269639359687902013-05-09T12:50:00.003-06:002014-11-10T21:41:58.975-07:00The first step is admitting you have a problem.
Hi, my name is Karen . . . I recently made it 3 days without a Diet Coke.
This may not seem a significant achievement for many of you, but Diet Coke is the absolute bane of my existence. I'm a hard core addict. I have a collection of international Diet Coke cans. I have one that I brought back from Italy. Then when I went to visit my sister in Germany, one psychedINhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768888351061658716noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575562436338349775.post-9195785239997770042013-04-19T21:07:00.001-06:002013-04-19T21:12:14.612-06:00Apparently, I'm allergic to help.
A friend of mine recently noticed that I am, as she so kindly put it, "allergic to help."
I have been allergic to help for a LOOOOOOOONG time. There are too many examples to list. Here's my favorite. Once upon a time, I volunteered myself and my horse to ride in a leadership clinic with some Cowboy from Virginia . After an amazing and enlightening psychedINhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768888351061658716noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575562436338349775.post-19160959444734540652013-04-15T20:09:00.001-06:002013-04-15T22:23:49.971-06:00Boston: Trouble . . . and Grace.While I was in my office meeting with wonderful hurting people who want nothing more and are working their guts out to free themselves from pain and learn how to navigate their lives, someone else blew up a piece of MY world.
Purposefully. Willfully. Viciously.
I'm having a lot of feelings today.
I wish I could say one of them was shock. I'm not shocked.&psychedINhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768888351061658716noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575562436338349775.post-42412813559195982672013-04-12T18:48:00.001-06:002013-04-12T18:49:08.684-06:00It won't suck forever. Really.
I get it.
You're discouraged. You're disappointed. Someone has broken your heart. You feel trapped, powerless and out of control. Whatever is going on, right now, things just suck.
It won't suck forever. Remember that. I know. You don't believe me. It's ok. Hear me out.
Today's world is HARD. We are overloaded, psychedINhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04768888351061658716noreply@blogger.com0